The meaning you make is your emotional home

The way you experience everything is always due to the meaning you have assigned to the situation.

Tony Robbins tells us that the meaning we ascribe to a situation creates our emotional experience of that situation. Similarly, Seth and Abraham tell us that what we believe about a situation is what we then feel about it. The meaning we make comes directly from what we believe.

Most people think that changing beliefs is difficult. Which in itself is a belief of course!

What if you didn’t have to change a belief in one fell swoop? What if you could change it with the momentum created by repeatedly choosing a different meaning to assign to any event?

Let me take a recent example from my life to illustrate.

My partner and I have, or had, what I called a communication problem. Actually, from my point of view he had the problem, and I was the victim! You see, whenever I would start to share a story or a scenario from my life, and my feelings about it, he would jump in and cut me short, telling me exactly how I needed to see and interpret this situation. From his point of view the conversation was then over and there was nothing left to say. If I said anything further it seemed like he thought I was a bad student who wasn’t learning fast enough.

I assigned this a meaning, or a few meanings. I told myself “He doesn’t want to listen to me, he doesn’t care about me, he wants this conversation to end as soon as possible. He has double standards because he expects me to listen to him endlessly talk about his problems. He doesn’t love me unless I’m bright and bubbly. He’s mean and without empathy.” I could go on! And on!

The belief underneath all this, that I chose to look at during the Unleash the Power Within Virtual event with Tony Robbins, was that “Nobody loves me.” And to hold that belief I have to find evidence of it constantly. And to do that, I corner myself into assigning a meaning that reinforces that belief.

In my equation, my partner jumping in without letting me express my feelings = he doesn’t love me.

So the other night, I was sharing something about a colleague from work, and he jumped right in, in the usual way. I was able to quickly remind myself that I’m practicing finding a new meaning in everything in my life. So I decided to tell myself, while listening to him, that “He knows me so well that he knows how this event at work is hurting me and he wants to help me so much. He has assigned himself a saviour role when it comes to me and wants to lift me out of this right now. He is so insightful and perceptive and the fact that he shares those insights with me shows me how much he loves me because he definitely doesn’t do this with everyone else. He loves me and I’m so very special to him.”

So the first thing that happened, by me doing this, is that I felt better. I didn’t close down, stop listening or become defensive. That should be reward enough right? I helped myself.

But the Law of Attraction is so much more beautiful than that. And fast! I lined up with a different emotional vibration and was more present and then this is what my partner said. “I know I’m saying all this, and I know I’m the last one to talk because I can’t really do this for myself very effectively, but I know it’s the right thing to do and I want you to feel better about this.” He has never even come close to saying anything like this, except perhaps the first time this happened when we had our first little fight and he was clearly horrified that he had seemingly hurt me and made me cry. Of course he never makes me cry, I make myself cry with the meaning I assign!

This is perhaps the single most liberating idea that you can experience and embrace.

If you realise that you hold all the power in choosing what meaning to give to any situation, you can choose whatever you want. This is the beginning of choosing whatever you want from the field of potential realities and manifestations.

As Tony says, the meaning you create in turn creates your emotional home. If you want to change where you live and dwell emotionally, change how you choose to see and define absolutely everything. I guarantee the results will be astonishing.

To help you get started, here’s a tool you might like.